Babywise

 What Health Care Professionals Say about On Becoming

Babywise

My introduction to Babywise came over a decade ago when a discerning mother in the my practice noticed my frustration and burnout when

dealing with fatigued mothers, fussy babies and their sleepless nights.

She loaned me some audio resources containing principles found in

Babywise. I was profoundly impressed with the relevance of the material and purchased my first case of Babywise. Over the next year, the change in my practice was dramatic as I watched the incidence of colicky babies,

sleep disturbed and frustrated parents drop precipitously. With the

Babywise feeding philosophy and the technical assistance of our certified lactation nurse, it is a pleasure to see parents prepared to parent with confidence in the critical first few months of life and to note the healthy

outcomes. Word of mouth among our community has helped our practice

grow exponentially. I can’t imagine any pediatrician who has actually read this book not making it a routine part of their practice.

Jim Pearson, M.D.

Johnson City, TN

 

As family physicians and a husband-wife team, we are often asked

questions related to parenting and the general care of children. Most of our basic responses are found in On Becoming Babywise.  For answering parenting questions, it has become a practical guide giving us a sense of

competence and confidence as physicians and as parents. When the

principles are put into practice, parents reap abundant rewards.

Tony Burden, M.D., and Margaret Burden, M.D.

Bellingham, Washington Babywise provides sound parenting advise and common sense pediatric care to many parents who are confused, frustrated, and downright sleep deprived. As a pediatrician and father of four, my wife and I routinely receive positive feedback regarding our children’s behavior and sleep

habits. Parents feel confident and relaxed when they have a plan and a goal for their infant and family. Once a family has found success with the

principles in Babywise, they pass along their satisfaction to every new parent they meet. Simply put. ‘It works!’

David M. Miller, M.D.

Superior, CO

 

I am a practicing pediatrician and assistant professor of pediatrics.

Residents and new mothers I work with have found On Becoming

Babywise overwhelmingly successful. My residents report a positive difference in the confidence of new mothers who work with this plan compared to those who do not. The freedom Babywise provides a new mother is so refreshing. Life is predictable, allowing her to be proactive

in parenting, not reactive, which usually produces less than desirable results. My parents become baby wise with Babywise.

Linda Meloy, M.D.

Richmond, Virginia

 

Medical school in no way prepared me for one of the more demanding aspects of my practice: dealing with infant feeding. The theory of feeding

a baby whenever it cries, which was standard teaching, was not only without justification—it simply did not meet the needs of my patients.

Since being introduced to the principles of On Becoming Babywise, I have been convinced of its effectiveness in establishing sleep patterns and in decreasing the frequency of problems associated with infant feeding. If thriving children and happy, rested parents were not enough, my greatest commendation of On Becoming Babywise is that my own children are being raised by these precepts.

Craig Lloyd, M.D.

Brisbane, Australia

 

As a pediatrician, I cannot argue with the success of On Becoming Babywise. It is such a practical approach to parenting. It provides infants with needed structure and stability and brings the joy and love so needed

in our homes today. The effects of not using On Becoming Babywise show up very quickly. That is why I have made these principles a priority of discussion in every well-child care visit. Parents constantly tell me, “It changed our lives.”

Janet Dunn, M.D.

Chatsworth, California

 

As a practicing pediatrician, husband, and father, I enthusiastically recommend On Becoming Babywise.  I found the principles contained within to be a sigh of welcome relief to sleepless, weary parents, and more than an ounce of prevention for those who adopt these concepts from the start. I am convinced that the well-tested principles of Babywise produce confident parents, secure and content infants, and peaceful and orderly homes.

David Blank, M.D.

Longmont, Colorado

 

As an obstetrician and a mother, my concern for a healthy outcome continues beyond the moment of delivery. Because the principles of On Becoming Babywise are so effective, I consider it part of my extended health care for the entire family. The principles are simple—yet amazing.

They consistently produce babies who are healthy, content, and who sleep

through the night at an early age. Feeding a baby on demand simply cannot compare to the overall healthy benefits of Babywise. The concepts take the guesswork out of early parenting and provide new moms the confidence of knowing what happens next. Not following the principles of Babywise is a potential health concern.

Sharon Nelson, M.D.

Glendale, California

 

As a mother, I have parented both ways. As a certified lactation educator,

I only recommend On Becoming Babywise.  I know how discouraging it is to feed a baby around the clock with no apparent advantage. I know how

tired a young mom can get and how that affects her milk supply. I also

know how discouraging the first eighteen months of parenting can be without a plan. I know because with my first child I did everything the opposite of Babywise.  Before my second baby was born, I was introduced to the concepts presented in this book. Applying the principles

revolutionized my thinking. Instead of being in baby bondage, I was liberated to be the mother God wanted me to be. I have consistently used

Babywise with the women I counsel. These mothers have met with tremendous success, whether bottle-or breast-feeding. Babywise is proactive, preventative parenting, minimizing the common problems

often associated with breast-feeding.

Barbara Phillips, R.N., C.L.E.

Los Angeles, California

 

What Moms and Dads Are Saying about On Becoming

Babywise

 

My sister-in-law gave me Babywise when my baby was three months old.

I had read lots and lots of books and magazines, talked to many

experienced mothers, and asked the help of my pediatrician, but nothing

had answered all of my questions—until I read your book. I highly recommend this book to all mothers and mothers-to-be.  A mother from West Covina, California

 

My husband and I had heard all sorts of horror stories and felt so discouraged and defeated before our baby came. Feeding around the

clock, unexplained fussiness, and bondage (to our baby) were not what we

wanted. We were sure there had to be a more sane way to parent than that.

We were introduced to your concepts a week after our son was born. How

timely! As predicted, our baby was sleeping through the night at five weeks. We have order in our family and are not ashamed of it. Thank you

for giving us the confidence to do what is best for our son.

A mother from Denver, Colorado

 

Without reservation I would recommend this program to anyone—

because it works. I demand-fed my first three children, not knowing there

was another way. I didn’t get a complete night’s sleep in five years.

When friends began to share your principles, I refused to listen to what I

thought was simplistic nonsense. I hold a master’s degree in early childhood education and your concepts challenged everything I had been

taught.

When our friends’ first child slept through the night at six weeks, I was enraged. My husband and I watched as their second and third

followed the same pattern. They had everything under control, and so few

of the problems that we experienced. When I discovered that I was expecting baby number four, I was depressed for months. The only thing I

could focus on was the misery of more sleepless nights and demanding children.

I am ashamed to say that it was out of desperation that we applied your parent-directed feeding. I was humbled. Our baby slept through the night at four weeks. We couldn’t believe it was that easy. He was a delight, happy and content, something never experienced with the first three. Since then, a fifth child has arrived and, again, success. On Becoming Babywise has saved our marriage and family. Thank you.

A mother from Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

 

My husband and I want to thank you for getting us on the right track from

the beginning. It wasn’t easy, because all our friends followed the demand-feeding philosophy and said a schedule was bad for the baby. For

these families, children were a major interruption. That didn’t make sense to us. We stayed with your program and our baby slept eight hours

through the night at six weeks, and eleven hours at twelve weeks—just like your book says. My friends said exactly what you predicted: that we

were lucky and had an easy baby. But we know otherwise. Thank you for

being a source of encouragement.

A mother from Fort Worth, Texas

 

I was at church holding a crying baby and everyone asked what was wrong with my son. They said they had never before heard him cry. Then

they realized it wasn’t my son I was holding. Thank you for On Becoming

Babywise.  My wife and I have a happy, contented baby.

Before our son was born we’d heard so many sad stories. My sister had not gone out with her husband alone for three years after the birth of

their first son. She went to a mothers’ support group but only found other

mothers to cry with. No thank you. Not for my wife. We follow the principles of PDF. Because our lives are so predictable and our son responds so well to routine, we had our first date night after three weeks

and once a week ever since. Thank you for helping to keep our family a

family.  A father from Tacoma, Washington

 

Our daughter will be one year old at the end of this month and I must tell

you that I truly and profoundly enjoyed this year of her life. A big part of the reason is because we followed the principles of On Becoming Babywise.  It was not only helpful with my daughter, but also helped me understand my frustrations with my firstborn! I kept wondering why he was so demanding. Why would he never sleep at night or take decent naps?

I had nursed my son as often as he needed (so I thought)—anytime and anywhere, day and night—until he was twenty-two months old. And I

gave him attention, both quality and quantity. He slept with us at night but after a few weeks the baby slept with only me at night; my husband

was on the couch. I stayed home, gave him a good learning environment,

and cooked all natural foods. I did everything the “experts” said to do.

But they were so wrong. In the end, it was all for nothing. The only thing

I succeeded in doing was to raise a demanding, out-of-control toddler who is not pleasant to be with.

I don’t share this to burden you, but to encourage you. Please get the

Babywise principles out to young families of our nation (Canada) and yours, so they will not have to suffer what we did. Thank you for your sensible teaching.

 A mother from Vancouver, British Columbia

 

My husband and I want to thank you for helping us gain the confidence to

parent. Your book has been around to all the expectant moms at our preschool. Everyone wants to know why our son, Jonathan, is such a good

baby. My husband and I have found parenting to be a joyful experience. It

makes so much sense to work from a plan and provide order for our child.

Because of that, I have more energy for my husband, my friends, and to

do the extra things with my son. Thank you. A mother from Los Angeles, California

 

My wife and I were introduced to your program while in marriage

counseling. It was then that we discovered the trap of child-centered parenting. In the name of “good parenthood,” we gave up our marriage—

figuratively and nearly literally. We did this for the “baby’s good.” That

sounded sacrificial and was something I wanted to do as a father. But I never realized how faulty that thinking was until I read your first two chapters. Your book makes sense out of nonsense.

After eighteen months of misery, we started our son on a routine.

After three nights he began sleeping through the night and my wife began

to sleep with me—but this time alone. What a difference a good night’s

sleep makes to a toddler’s disposition! We had a new son. Get these vital

principles out to every family of childbearing age.

A father from Atlanta, Georgia

 

I am a grandmother with fourteen grandchildren. I must admit, the

evidence of your principles is apparent in our family. My second

daughter was introduced to your material in Florida and brought it back

to the rest of the family. I was surprised that your teaching is needed. You tell parents to do what we did years ago when there were no books or tapes, just practical wisdom. Thank you for your practical advice. You have helped make grandparenting a joy.

A grandmother from Raleigh, North Carolina

 

Thank you so much for your book. What an eye opener! With the utmost love and the best intentions, I had gone wrong in most ways with regard

to feeding/sleeping patterns and breast-feeding. I followed the demand-feeding methodology. How deceived I was. Your book arrived at a point of desperation, with our baby waking eight to twelve times nightly and a

four-year-old coming into our bed each night. Existing on almost no sleep, our marriage was suffering and we both decided we couldn’t live this way anymore. A counselor pointed us to On Becoming Babywise.  It turned our lives around. Please use this letter to encourage young couples

to grasp and hold on to the principles of Babywise.

A mother from Christ Church, New Zealand

 

Babywise is fantastic. We followed the principles from day one. On the other hand our neighbor (who had a baby at the same time) did the attachment parenting theory and then 6 weeks later couldn’t cope because

of a crazy timetable. The baby ended up in hospital for 4 days so that the

nurses could teach mom how to properly feed her baby. In short, they gave her the same principles found in Babywise.

A mother from Melbourne, Australia

 

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